Stopping evaluating our worthiness by weighing the reaction of others is a powerful source of freedom. Disengagement triggers shame-based fear of abandonment, worthiness, and loveability. When people we love stop caring, trust is replaced by hurt. “To be alive is to be vulnerable.” - Madeleine L’Engle. Love is a powerful form of vulnerability. Somehow we think our truth and what we have to offer isn’t enough without embellishment. Vulnerability is the first quality we want to see in others and the last one we want to see in ourselves. “I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.”. To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness.” 
“Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings.Wholeheartedness is, at its core, vulnerability, and worthiness - facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks and knowing that I am enough.“The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness.”.Three components of scarcity: shame, comparison, and disengagement.Scarcity thrives in shame-based cultures like the U.S.Being ordinary is promoted in our culture as “less than.”.Narcissism is the “shame-based fear of being ordinary.”.Letting ourselves be seen is about being without knowing.Being a mapmaker and traveler is the most challenging aspect of my work.“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experiences.”.Yes, I am imperfect, vulnerable, and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.
Wholehearted living mantra: “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. Wholehearted living is defined by courage, compassion, and connection. Fear and disconnection reflect how much we are protecting ourselves from vulnerability. Courage and clarity of purpose are reflected in our willingness to own and engage with vulnerability. To be alive is to face risk, uncertainty, and emotional exposure. Vulnerability is not weakness, and it’s not optional. It’s courageously loving and being loved and putting ourselves and our creations out there despite the risk of rejection. Daring greatly is about being vulnerable, living wholeheartedly, and showing up as our authentic selves in the face of uncertainty, doubt, and not knowing.
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